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EPM-1BedroomDetermining how – and where – you want to spend your future is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. We can tell you the many reasons why seniors choose Emporia Presbyterian Manor, but there’s only one way to know what it’s really like to live here.

At Emporia Presbyterian Manor, there are many benefits that can help you live happier and healthier – a maintenance-free residence and social atmosphere filled with activities like our Art is Ageless® and Just Ask Lifelong Learning programs. Plus, healthy dining, wellness options and convenient access to on-site health services.

Join us for a free Staycation and find out! Sample the dining, meet friendly neighbors and staff, ask questions and join in the fun. You’re free to participate as much or as little as you like.

Your Staycation includes:

  • A hospitality basket from the Presbyterian Manor family
  • Free accommodations for up to three days
  • Personalized tour of our community
  • Admission to on-site activities and programs of your choice during your stay
  • Three meals per day in our dining room with resident hosts
  • Complimentary wellness evaluation

All Staycations must be scheduled in advance. Contact Marketing Director, Ken Hanson, at 620-343-2613 for more information or to schedule your Staycation.

The importance of listening to the person with dementia

We need to hear well before the voice is silenced by the disease

By Mike Good for Next Avenue


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(Editor’s Note: This is the eighth in a series examining and interpreting a commonly used “bill of rights” for dementia patients.) 

People with Alzheimer’s or other dementia are an invaluable part of our society. Millions of them are brilliant, wise and actively advocating for their rights and needs.

As my friend with Alzheimer’s, David Kramer said, “It’s not something that necessarily makes us idiots.” No it doesn’t, but unfortunately the vast majority of people don’t understand the disease, and therefore, don’t know how to listen to the person with dementia.

Just like anyone else with unique challenges and special needs, people with dementia need to be able to communicate their needs, wants and fears without being judged.

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It happens to the best of us: I’m not cool anymore

Despair turns to hope during a humdrum trip to the grocery store

By Peter Gerstenzang for Next Avenue


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A few mornings ago, I saw a reflection of myself and had to summon every bit of strength to keep from shrieking. What was staring back at me, from a darkened winter window, was sad, morally repugnant and just plain creepy.

As I caught a glimpse of myself on the NordicTrack, wearing a velour sweatsuit and horn-rimmed glasses so I could watch CNBC, I had the most unsettling epiphany: I’m not cool anymore.

I looked beyond the window at my snow-covered suburban lawn and wondered what had happened to my rebellious nature. Where was the guy who once wore mirror shades and motorcycle boots, whose long hair was held in place by a bandana? How did he morph into the guy who was exercising before dawn? Who chugged prune juice? And now dressed like senile mobster, Vincent “The Chin” Gigante? I did not know. And I was bummed about it.

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Art and friendship make powerful tools to fight ageism

College students and older adults become ‘pals’ in this creative arts program

By Linda Bernstein for Next Avenue


Credit: paletteprogram.org Caption: PALETTE participants bridge the generations

“Whom would I meet? What would I say? Would I seem dorky?” These were Rena Berlin’s concerns before she met her Partner in Art Learning, the new “pal” she’d been matched with through a program that pairs a college student with an older adult to create art.

“For the first time in my life I really felt like a senior,” says the 68-year-old educator from Richmond, Va., with a laugh. “They were transporting a small group of us from the Weinstein Jewish Community Center in a van to the Visual Arts Center of Richmond. A van. That mean’s you’re getting old. I was also nervous.”

It turns out she had nothing to worry about. “After my PAL and I got started, it was amazing,” she says.

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The secret to a long marriage

Our relationship is different from our parents’ but just as lasting

By Candy Schulman for Next Avenue


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When I mention I recently celebrated my 40th wedding anniversary, friends stare incredulously as if to say, “How is that possible?” I joke that I was a child bride in an arranged marriage, sold with a dowry to the highest bidder. The truth is I did vow “I do” at 23.

My husband, Steve, and I married young and had a child late.

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Monthly luncheon brings retired teachers together

shutterstock_154985318The first Friday of every month, the Emporia Presbyterian Manor dining room fills with retired teachers for the monthly meeting and luncheon of the Emporia Association of Retired School Personnel (EARSP).

Presbyterian Manor began hosting the event a few years ago, said marketing director Crystal Holly, as a way to connect with local organizations. It’s also a good opportunity for our residents who were retired teachers to continue to attend once they chose to move here – residents like Jim Calvert.

Now an active member in the organization, Jim is a retired physics professor from Emporia State University. Education is a family tradition: his wife was an elementary school teacher, their son is a high school teacher, and their daughter has her teaching certification.

Jim told us the group is a good social club, and it helps him stay current on legislative issues, which he likes to write about. “The food is good at Emporia Presbyterian Manor and the contacts are beneficial,” Jim said, adding that other retired teachers are “missing out, if they are not part of this program.”

About 50 to 60 people usually attend the monthly meeting, which also features guest speakers to discuss current legislation and policies.

Our dining services staff prepares a delectable menu for each meeting. Here’s what we’ll be serving this month at the luncheon on Oct. 7 at 11:30 a.m.

· Tomato Bisque

· Tossed Salad

· Bourbon chicken

· Tomato Basil Baked Fish

· Egg Rolls

· Vegetable Lo Mein

· Sweet Potato Pie

EARSP is an affiliate of the Kansas Association of Retired School Personnel. (The group was called the Kansas Retired Teachers Association from 1951 to 2001.) The Emporia chapter was the second unit to organize in Kansas in 1956 – no surprise for the hometown of what was then called Kansas State Teachers College (now Emporia State University).

According to EARSP president Irene Meyers, the group is open to all school personnel from the three districts in Lyon County, Emporia State University and local preschools. The association is also known for its volunteer work with local schools, churches, organizations and events.

To become a member, you can contact Presbyterian Manor for more information at 620-343-2613.

Gold Star Mother honors her son

trial-30In her role as a social worker at Emporia Presbyterian Manor, it’s part of Maria Lane’s job to make sure residents who are veterans get the benefits they deserve. Away from work, Maria serves veterans in many other ways as well – honoring the memory of her son as she does so.

Army Spc. David Lane was killed Sept. 4, 2007, in Baghdad, Iraq. He was 20 years old. Since then, Maria has been active with the American Gold Star Mothers organization. All members have lost a child in the service of their country. In next month’s Veterans Day parade, Maria will again have a float for David Lane’s Fallen Heroes, which displays all of the servicemen and women from Kansas who have died from Sept. 11, 2001, to present. She started the display in 2009.

“It’s a way to always make people aware of those who have died and sacrificed,” she said. “I’m always adding pictures to it — unfortunately.”

Maria is also involved in the Tablets of Honor campaign at the All Veterans Memorial, which offers individual engraved nameplates for all veterans, past and present. She volunteers at the local American Legion chapter and also works to support veterans returning home with injuries and PTSD.

Maria will participate in Veterans Day activities here at Presbyterian Manor. Our annual breakfast, free to all veterans, will be at 7 a.m. Friday, Nov. 11. We will have a special thank-you gift for all veterans and a special guest speaker.

As the birthplace of Veterans Day, Emporia is a busy place every fall with observances and events commemorating the holiday. Here are some of the activities leading up to and including Veterans Day.

Oct. 3-Nov. 4: Quilts of Valor on display, Emporia Public Library

Nov. 1-12: Veteran Artist Exhibit, Emporia Arts Center

Nov. 6: Freedom Fest: run, walk, and bike events at the All Veterans Memorial

Nov. 6: The Charlie Daniels Band in concert, Emporia Granada Theatre

Nov. 9: Veterans Appreciation Luncheon, sponsored by the Convention and Visitors Bureau, Trusler Business Center (free to veterans and active duty)

Nov. 10: Free Veterans Breakfast, Emporia Senior Center, 8 a.m.

Veterans Day, Friday Nov. 11:

Veterans Breakfast, Presbyterian Manor, 7 a.m.

Veterans Day Parade, downtown, 9:30 a.m.

Memorial service, All Veterans Memorial, 11 a.m.

Ham & Bean Feed, American Legion and VFW, noon

Emporia Alzheimer’s Walk

Walk_to_End_AlzheimersThe annual Walk to End Alzheimer’s takes place in more than 600 communities nationwide. Our local event is scheduled for Oct. 2 at the Lyon County Fairgrounds. Join us at 1:30 p.m. for registration, followed at 2 p.m. by an inspirational Promise Garden in Motion Ceremony.

The two-mile walk starts at 2:15. But you don’t even have to take a step to participate. Anyone may simply attend and support the cause. It is the world’s largest event to raise awareness and funds for Alzheimer’s care, support and research by the Alzheimer’s Association.

Register today at alzwalkemporia.org. For more information, contact Ruth Wheeler at 620-340-5511 or rw9804@gmail.com.

4 life lessons from Tony Bennett and other 89-year-olds

Bennett and Dick Van Dyke are going strong and happy

By Liz Fedor for Next Avenue


Caption: Tony with his son Danny, 2007 Grammy Awards

Singer Tony Bennett, at 89, isn’t resting on his laurels.

He recently released a new album, The Silver Lining: The Songs of Jerome Kern. In an interview with NPR, he recalled how much he loved singing for his relatives as a boy. “It created a passion in my life that exists to this moment as I speak to you, that is stronger now at 89 than in my whole life,” Bennett said. “I still feel that I can get better somehow. And I search for it all of the time.”

Bennett’s not the only 89-year-old who is defying stereotypes of older age.  Actor Dick Van Dyke  just wrote a memoir titled Keep Moving: And Other Tips and Truths About Aging.  Queen Elizabeth continues to carry out the royal responsibilities she inherited in 1952. And Marilyn Hagerty, my friend and former colleague, continues to write regularly for the Grand Forks, N.D., Herald.

Their daily lives offer four lessons for all people of all ages:

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Fiftysomething diet: 7 trendy (and healthy?) foods

They are getting a lot of attention and may even be good for you

By Maureen Callahan for Next Avenue


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In the never-ending parade of new food products that make headlines every year, there are always a few that catch on and become trendy, almost fashionable. They are options that beg to be included in any healthy diet.

The question is: Are they worth bringing to the table? Put another way, will they help you age more gracefully and do they have unique nutritional benefits?

Here’s a look at seven of the trendiest edible offerings that people are talking about around the water cooler, at book clubs and in the coffee shop, along with details on what they do and don’t offer when it comes to health, nutrition and disease prevention:

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Dad’s gone but his travels to Africa still inspire me

His pictures from the other side of the world set me off on an unexpected path

By Wendy Walleigh for Next Avenue


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Africa has had a special place in my heart ever since I was a little girl looking at my father’s World War II photos. Dad had been a 24-year-old Air Force cargo pilot in multiple countries in east, west and central Africa. And while on the continent in 1942 and ’43, he traveled to Egypt and Palestine.

He sent his photos of these locales home to my mother, who lovingly preserved them, mostly black-and-white, affixing them to the black pages of a photo album with sticky corner-frames. I liked to sit with him looking at these pictures as he told me the stories that accompanied them.

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